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The Generosity a Baby Brings

I’ve since gone from beer bottles to baby bottles and with that, I’ve noticed an incredible generosity in people. 

My husband and I recently welcomed a little girl into this world and have been mesmerized by how much she has changed our lives, the lives of our families and our outlook on life. We weren’t too vocal about expecting (i.e. announcing it on Facebook, posting lots of pregnancy photos, etc.), as we felt it was a special, yet personal moment that we didn’t feel the need to share via social media outlets. However, when our daughter was born, we were proud to share her photo to introduce our new little munchkin to everyone. 

With that said, the outpouring of love and kindness we received from friends, family and colleagues, both new and old, was astounding. The amount of messages, calls, texts and emails we got was overwhelming in the best possible way. And the presents we have received from folks has been beyond amazing. In the short two weeks since our daughter was born, gifts have been bestowed upon us from long lost friends to old co-workers to new friends and neighbors. 

I’ve always thought of my husband and I as generous giving people; individuals who give because we want to, not because we expect anything in return. Perhaps that giving is coming back around or maybe we’re still wearing our rose-colored glasses since we expanded our family. Whatever the reason, we couldn’t be happier by the outpouring of love and support we have received from so many during this very exciting time. One of my very best friends told me a baby brings out the best in people. You know what? She was right!


(Supporting) Obama and the Birth Control Debate

Today, President Obama is retooling his decision requiring religious employers to cover birth control for their employees and instead, make insurance companies directly responsible for providing free contraception. I applaud the President for trying to find a common ground while still providing birth control to those in need, but I find the religious right’s opposition on this a bit confusing.

Catholic Church leaders, Republicans and other social conservatives have denounced this as an attack on religious freedom. But what if you are Jewish or Muslim and work for a Catholic employer such as a hospital or university? Hell, what if you are Catholic and work for these organizations? Does that mean you shouldn’t be entitled to low cost or free contraception if you choose? I understand the outcry of mixing church and state, but what about privacy and women’s rights? Who is an employer to tell women they won’t provide them with preventative measures to ensure they don’t get pregnant because of their religious beliefs? Why is that any of their business?

And let’s get real for a moment. Many, if not all of those defending the original decision to provide birth control at no cost to women are anti-abortion. Hey, they have that right, but how can one condemn abortion so harshly, yet not provide women with the contraceptives they need in order prevent them from being put in such a situation? I mean, it’s common sense, isn’t it? The church doesn’t believe in abortion, but it also doesn’t believe in birth control, so therefore, we should just hope and pray the old age “pull out” method works and cross our fingers that we don’t get pregnant, even though there are measures we can take to prevent it. Are you f*ing serious?

Ironically, polls indicate a majority of Americans and Catholics support the rule according to Reuters. A Public Religion Research Institute poll taken last week found 55 percent of Americans want employers to provide healthcare plans that cover contraception and birth control, including nearly six in 10 Catholics.

I think it’s amazing that this plan will allow all women to obtain free or lost cost contraceptives, especially since 99 percent of women have relied upon some type of birth control during their lifetimes. With so many unplanned pregnancies in this world, shouldn’t we do all we can to prevent women and young girls from having to deal with one? It feels like an oxymoron if one doesn’t support abortion, yet won’t make contraceptives available to those who want to prevent unintended pregnancies.

Get Up for the Pregnant Women!

I was always taught that you give up your seat on a bus, train or subway for a pregnant woman or the elderly. Most people I know were brought up the same way. Yet somehow, I have seen a ridiculous amount of pregnant women standing on the PATH (the subway to Jerseyans) without a single person, male or female, offering them a seat.

I know that it is sometimes difficult to tell if a woman is expecting; come on, let’s be honest. But when you see a woman resting her hand on her very large belly that is rounder than that of say an overweight person, you offer her your seat or politely just stand up making the seat available.

In the last week, I have seen two women who are clearly having babies denied a seat on the PATH which I think is disgusting (note: yes, I am standing!). The first time was when the conductor had to literally ask passengers to get up from their seats for a woman who looked as if she was ready to pop.

The next time this happened, I got kind of annoyed and said something. A woman got on the train and stood next to me. She seemed to get a little lost in the shuffle while boarding. It took a minute or two to notice she was pregnant, but she was trying to make it as obvious as possible.

In the seats in front of us were two passengers, a man and woman. They both acknowledged the woman, but didn’t offer her their seat. I understand that they may not have recognized she was pregnant, but in time, my gut tells me they did. These two repeatedly stared this woman down, kept looking at her and for the reactions of those around them. It was almost like they didn’t know what to do or were hoping no one saw them deny this woman seating.

In the end, the pregnant woman was left standing. As I approached the Christopher Street station, I took it upon myself to say, “Don’t you think it would be nice to offer your seat to a pregnant woman?” I don’t know if anyone offered that woman their seat, but at least I knew I did my part to help her.

It’s definitely tough to tell if someone is expecting, but when in doubt, just get up and stand; give women an option to sit. If nothing else, you help out another human being. If you have two legs, stand and be happy you paid it forward.